Being treated unfairly is an unfortunate part of life.

We can’t control how we are treated most of the time, and some people are just plainly unaware of their disappointing behavior.

Therefore, it’s only natural that we experience feelings of resentment sometimes.

But how do we let go of resentment?

It’s understood that holding on to resentment leads to depression and stress.

Even though most of us know that resentment is something that only brings more negativity, it can be very difficult to actually let go of these feelings.

Causes of resentment?

We can’t control everything that happens around us, and so we’re bound to be let down by others sometimes.

Whenever this happens, we can harbor feelings of resentment.

This is totally natural and happens to everybody.

Feelings of resentment can be caused by lots of things:

When your colleague is unfairly promoted over you.

Being cheated on by your partner.

When a friend blows you off for no apparent reason.

When somebody humiliates you in front of others.

Being left out of a group chat with your friends.

In other words, resentment happens whenever we are unfairly wronged by others.

It’s important to not hold on to resentment because that will have a big impact on your potential state of mind.

The heart, once accustomed to abundance, may recoil when the flow diminishes.

In relationships, consistency often outweighs grand gestures. It’s the small, steady acts of kindness that build lasting bonds.

Like a tree, love thrives when nourished consistently, not just during occasional storms.

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Thank you …. So, let us be mindful: Love is a garden, tended daily, where seeds of affection sprout into sturdy trees.

Water it with care, and it shall flourish; neglect it, and it may wither.

Remember, love isn’t a currency; it’s an art—a masterpiece painted stroke by stroke, day by day.

All of us have given and received hundreds, if not thousands, of gifts.

So why is it that as gift givers we continue to make the same mistakes over and over again?

Because the gifts we want to give are not the same as the gifts we want to receive. In an effort to make gift giving a little less stressful and more pleasurable.

It’s NOT the thought that counts.

There is a mismatch in our preferences for giving and receiving gifts. When we are acting as gift givers, we believe that a thoughtful, surprising gift is the best kind.

Many people spend hours and hours searching online and in stores for the perfect gifts that their family members didn’t even know they needed, hoping to elicit a squeal of joy when the surprises get revealed.

We think that this is the perfect gift to give, but it’s not.

Why?

Because when we are the gift recipients, we really just want to receive a gift we like.

We have done all the thinking about which item would make us happy and put it on your wish list. We know that opening a box with that much-desired item will make us happy, even if it isn’t a surprise.

This disconnect between our goals as a gift giver and as a gift receiver causes much strain and disappointment come gift-opening time.

Of course, there are some people who value sentimentality over a product. My daughter is one of those people. Her top item on her wish list would be “something sentimental.”

So for her, the thought DOES count in as much as she loves receiving homemade, time-intensive, thoughtful gifts like photo albums or written letters.

But I don’t really see these research findings as contrary to her preference for sentimentally.

Relationships, and jobs don’t always work out as planned — and it’s not always clear when to throw in the towel.

We’ve all repeatedly heard the adage that “quitters never win,” but sometimes the best decision is to cut our losses.

Think about that relationship you held on to even after it had run its course or the job you stayed in despite your boss making you miserable.

Many of us try to hold onto the last ray of hope, thinking we can make it work, whatever “it” is.

If you strongly identify as not being a quitter, your tendency is likely to stick with things for a little too long.

And while tenacity is generally an excellent quality, it may also incline you to over-invest in something that is no longer a good idea.

As a retired practitioner, I work with numerous passionate and hard-working leaders who don’t want to “quit.” But the smartest leaders learn to discern the difference between quitting too soon and holding onto something that they shouldn’t

The results show that there is one big mistake people make more often than any other when they are selecting gifts.

This major misunderstanding results in at least seven mismatches between what gift givers think their recipients want and what the recipients really want.

Those mismatches can be often be easily corrected, and then recipients don’t have to pretend to like their gifts—they will actually like them.

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