Language is the primary tool for expression and communication.

Studying how people use language – what words and phrases they unconsciously choose and combine – can help us better understand ourselves and why we behave the way we do.

Linguistics scholars seek to determine what is unique and universal about the language we use, how it is acquired and the ways it changes over time.

We gain compassion for others and recognize their limitations.

We experience less anger or resentment towards people because we are able to accept that everyone is entitled to set boundaries.

To gain a sense of inner peace and safety from feeling the need to respond to others’ self-serving demands.

While not everyone will automatically respect your choice of words immediately or in perpetuity, by verbalizing your boundaries, you have set up a defense that you can feel safe honoring.

You gain the time and energy you need to attend to the things that matter most to you—not that matter most to someone else.

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Thank you ….You gain a sense of self-respect by not setting aside your needs to fulfill the needs of others—and others will respect you more for having drawn this line.

There is also less relationship conflict between you and others when you make it clear what is and is not reasonable to expect from you.

If you state your boundaries firmly and live them publicly, people lose the fire power.

Your choice of phrases they might have had to guilt you into agreeing to something you would wish you had not agreed to.

Your choice of phrases relationships allow for improved communication.

Do you want to add a word or two?

You’re setting the ground rules and showing others where you stand—these invite others to do the same in your relationship with them and their relationships with others.

As you build healthy boundaries this way   , you’re building up your self-esteem, as well.

You’ll begin to realize that your self-worth should not be based on what others use you for, but on how you use your talents and your gifts.

You’ll also gain confidence in yourself as you Clearer boundaries mean less room for misunderstandings or “guilt trips” when you are asked to defend or clarify them, so you enjoy lower stress and less anxiety.

It can be hard at first to communicate where your boundaries lie, but the anxiety decreases as you practice honoring them.

Lastly, clear boundaries result in others having a better understanding and greater acceptance of you.

Boundaries in communications reflect our values and when we see what others value, it helps us understand who they are.

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Many people have trouble setting boundaries and practice self-care consistently. Even when we know what we need to do to take care of our bodies and minds, we often prioritize other things instead.

It’s easy to find a good reason to bypass self-care, such as being busy, distracted, not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings, being exhausted, overwhelmed, or worrying about being selfish and indulgent.

This is especially true for people who are highly sensitive and empathic, or for those who have caretaking or codependent tendencies.

Codependence is one of the most common expressions of low self-worth.

Codependence means that you connect with others through obligation, guilt, resentment, or control.

This comes from trauma or anything that conveyed to you that your purpose in life is to be there for other people at the expense of your own needs.

This means you get your sense of worth solely from taking care of others, but it’s really hard for you to receive support or to take good care of yourself.

If you have difficulty setting boundaries and practicing consistent self-care, this means that you need to strengthen your self-worth.

It’s likely that you have unconscious negative core beliefs that are deflating your self-worth and interfering with your conscious efforts.

Core beliefs are deeply rooted generalizations that live in the unconscious mind. You can usually pare them down to a short phrase or sentence which serves as a lens to view yourself, other people, and the world.

Core beliefs are formed by genetics, our environment,

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