It’s easy to stay in a “comfort zone.”

But often, you have outgrown things in your life and you may not even be aware of it!

When you know that it’s time to end a relationship, it’s important to do so with as much calm, clarity, communication, and love as you possibly can.

This will mean that you need to get clear with yourself first.

Why is the relationship no longer working?

How do you want to interact if at all moving forward?

Where can you acknowledge your part in the relationship’s end?

What gratitude can you offer to your partner for their part?

Breakups are hard for all involved, so the more clear you can be about why it’s happening, the easier it will be for you to communicate that in a loving, healthy way—and the better it will be for everyone.

What no longer serves you can prevent you from living the life you want to live.

It can be a career path, job, relationship, project, hobby, belief, behavior, or habit.

Letting go of something that no longer serves you can be daunting, but the act of doing so frees up space for new, more beneficial things to enter your life.

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Thank you ….Before you let go of something, however, how do you determine what no longer serves you?

Call it your intuition, your “gut feeling,” or trusting yourself, you often just know when something feels “off” or wrong.

You may have an emotional reaction to it, or, the reaction may be physical. You might feel dizzy, sick, fatigued, or feel a “pit” or a tug in your stomach. Slow down and tune into your body and emotions.

By being mindful – via meditation, or quiet walks – you can stop your racing mind and internal “to do list” for a few minutes and connect with the present moment. You’ll be surprised at what you will learn.

Whether it’s a project, hobby, job, or relationship, you’ll find yourself dreading it.

As it gets closer to the time when you need to do something or spend time with someone, you may find yourself wishing you could skip it.

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An entire day might be ruined because you spent hours dreading it. You might even find that you are happier doing almost anything else. This is a huge red flag that something isn’t serving you.

It no longer brings you joy or meaning.

Many important things in life may not be joyful – for example, a job. However, it can bring meaning or necessary income to your life.

You may dread some aspects of your job, like meetings or answering e-mails, but the rest of it might not bother you as much.

This isn’t a sign that you need to get rid of it. But if the pain of doing something begins to outweigh the benefits, it may be time to rethink it.

A project, relationship, hobby, or activity, however, should bring joy or meaning to your life. If it’s bringing you down, that’s a sign that it’s time to let it go.

Behaviors, beliefs, or habits that no longer serve you won’t make you feel good. Some habits, like scrolling your social media feeds, may provide solace in the moment.

However, this pleasant feeling this soon leads to regret, as you realize you have spent two hours mindlessly scrolling, rather than doing something that benefits you or brings you joy.

You’re distracted.

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Do you find yourself reaching for your smartphone more than you normally would, while working on a project or spending time with someone?

That’s a sign that you’re looking for a distraction to take you away from the current moment.

Activities and relationships that resonate with you should make you forget to check your notifications – or, at least, check them less frequently. If they don’t, it’s a sign that something isn’t right.

You dream of a future without it.

When you think about your future, what things, behaviors, or relationships are in it?

If you find that it doesn’t include your current career path, for example, that’s a clear sign that it isn’t serving you.

If something truly doesn’t resonate with who you are at your core, you won’t want it in your future.

It makes you feel bad about yourself.

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