During casual, everyday interactions, like a phone call, sound engaged as in, not distracted and glad to be making small talk.

During intense conversations, avoid using domineering, hostile, or sarcastic tones.

Don’t minimize or dismiss others’ fears, worries, or dreams.

Ask.

People aren’t mind readers, not even your partner. If you need something, ask for it.

Your partner isn’t going to know that you need more help with the kids or the chores, that you need more affection, or that you desire more stimulation —unless you make the request.

Put it out there; a good partner will try to deliver.

Express appreciation on a regular basis.

Acknowledging the little things that often go unnoticed can go a long way.

It could be thanking your partner for taking the dog out for a walk early in the morning, or giving your lover a hug for making another yummy dinner.

Recognizing the routine—the value of your partner’s daily contributions in making your life easier or more enjoyable—makes one feel valued and more willing to continue to contribute to a relationship’s and home’s maintenance.

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Thank you ….Don’t forget “I love you.”

Lovers are all too reliant on young love, Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, and other notable dates or time periods in a romance for the excuse to express their feelings for one another.

It’s to the point that if an “I love you” or other statement of endearment, like “You’re so beautiful,” or “I find you amazing,” is randomly shared, then it can feel off-putting.

What is she up to? What does he want?

So make expressing your love verbally—and nonverbally—a regular part of your relationship maintenance. It’s the glue when other relationship resolutions become harder to sustain.

If someone truly likes you, they might start copying some of your body language or actions. For example, imagine that you use the word “specifically” quite often.

Although this person wasn’t using the word at first when they began speaking with you, you may notice that they start using that word more frequently throughout your conversation. This is only a minor example, but you might be able to see this with other behaviors as well.

Do you want to add a word or two?….

Intimacy and passion are components of romantic love, but there is no commitment.

The partners spend much time with one another and enjoy their closeness, but have not made plans to continue.

This may be true because they are not in a position to make such commitments or because they are looking for passion and closeness and are afraid it will die out if they commit to one another and start to focus on other kinds of obligations.

Companionate Love. Intimacy and commitment are the hallmarks of companionate love. Partners love and respect one-another and they are committed to staying together.

Their physical attraction may have never been strong or may have just died out over time. Nevertheless, partners are good friends and committed to one another.

Intimacy, passion, and commitment are present in consummate love. This is often perceived by western cultures as “the ideal” type of love.

The couple shares passion; the spark has not died, and the closeness is there. They feel like best friends, as well as lovers, and they are committed to staying together.

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When there is a positive balance of relationship deposits this can help the overall relationship in times of conflict.

For instance, some research indicates that a husband’s level of enthusiasm in everyday marital interactions was related to a wife’s affection in the midst of conflict.

Authentic relationships—close, supportive, and nurturing connections—are essential to mental health. Research shows that the quality of our relationships is directly linked to our happiness, well-being, and self-esteem.

Unfortunately, early childhood trauma can impede our ability to create and maintain healthy, authentic relationships.

When the parent-child bond is disrupted early in life, we carry the psychological scars into adulthood.

However, relational therapy for trauma can help young adults heal from these experiences, understand the characteristics of a healthy relationship, and learn the skills to build authentic connections.

The healing process involves practicing compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance—for others and for yourself.

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