You are at an impasse and you have to make a choice that you don’t want to make—to tell them ‘no’.

Then deal with the consequences of their anger.

Do what they ask and then be angry with yourself, or walk away and risk that they will cut you out of their life (which may actually be a good thing).

Or you can be that person, feeling that you have to defend your place in life against everyone else and things have to go your way or not at all.

Everyone in your life presents a challenge to your freedom and energy and you feel you must always assert yourself to ensure that your needs are met.

We face power struggles in our life every day and sometimes we have to decide between several unappealing choices. But we can only see it from your perspective and we don’t see what is really going on with the other person.

What do they want when it’s ‘their way or the highway?’

Your way is not my way and my way cannot be your way. And that’s OK. That is as it should be.

Problems arise when we try to convince, cajole, or coerce others into believing that our way is the way for them.

The problems are compounded rather than relieved if the other the experience of living is a vastly different event depending on the angle that is taken.

The inside-looking-out viewpoint has no consistent and straightforward relationship with the outside-looking-in perspectives.

When living is understood in this way, it can perhaps be appreciated that many more problems are created than solved by imploring people to embrace the solutions I have fashioned for them.

There is no doubt that we can be enormously helpful to each other but, to do that, You need to follow rather than lead and listen.

 Sometimes, in fact, getting out of the way might be the most helpful thing you can do.

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Thank you …. We all have our moments where we find ourselves yelling at the top of our lungs to an adult as if they were our child, or becoming easily angered when something doesn’t go the way you planned.

When you find yourself speaking to your friend or significant other in the tone your mother used to speak to you in, you might have to step back into your body and get yourself together.

If you find yourself making plans for someone else before he or she has the opportunity to opt out (this could include your partner), you’re probably a big fan of having things go the way you want them too often.

You shouldn’t plan things for your friend or boo before you run it by them first. Now, they’re stuck feeling bad and are forced to attend because you’ve paid for something for the two of you or because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. Or worse, they don’t want to feel your wrath…

Its okay to keep tabs on a friend if, you know, he or she is bad at managing time and you have plans together. If you two have something scheduled that you don’t want to miss, I’m sure they wouldn’t mind if you were on their toes to make sure things go as planned.

 But if you are monitoring a friend’s actions for the sake of yourself and to have something to tell them they should change, you might be a bit too controlling. You can’t make sure she’s ready by noon just because you want to be at the mall.

 Things happen, and people aren’t always going to be ready at the drop of a hat. If you can’t handle a friend being a little late for things, you might want to go alone.

Do you want to add a word or two?

It’s normal to speak to others like you’re crazy when you’re upset by their actions, though I wouldn’t recommend doing it often… However, there are a few things that are never appropriate to.

Phrases such as “What did I just say???” and “You’re going to make me hurt you” are words that can get you in trouble if they are said to the wrong person, or any grown person for that matter.

Calm down and speak to others like you would like to be spoken to.

Your Comments……

Everything can’t always go the way you want it to go, get done when you want it done, or be done how you want it to be done. Being in control is something everyone wants.

No one likes the feeling of inferiority or not being in control of their situations.

When the slightest thought of someone else being in control makes you feel as if your head is going to explode and you slowly start being overbearing.

Being in control and always wanting to have things in order is a trait some people you know might respect, while others might loathe it.

Your friends and family might love that part of you, but even cows get tired of milk.

You’re a control freak when your need to be in control is affecting those around you. If your mother is worried about you, you should be too.

If you’re starting to annoy your best friend, maybe you should consider calming down.

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