Ever wish to be honest without hurting somebody’s feelings?
A lot of the times, sarcasm can be used wrongly. Yeah, like a lot of things, it can be used for wrong, as well as right, good as well as bad.
These people are like leaches on your self-esteem and it’s important not to let the problem get to you.
If someone is using sarcasm scathingly and if they are damaging your self-esteem or reputation, or taking the enjoyment out of social occasions – then you need to address the issue and get them to stop.
If someone thinks they can keep trying to belittle you by using sarcasm then you need to show them that they are or look better.
Well there are several reasons that someone might be sarcastic and the nature of their sarcasm and how best to deal with it will often depend on the form of sarcasm they are using against you.
The question you have to ask yourself is –
Is this passive sarcasm designed to be humorous that has the unintentional impact of upsetting you?
If the sarcasm is designed first of all as humor then you will notice that the individual is persistently sarcastic – about themselves and about other things rather than just directing it toward you.
In this case you still need to deal with the sarcasm if it is hurting you, but you can do so in a more pleasant manner and should recognize that the person probably isn’t even aware they are being hurtful.
At the end of the day though they are still getting a laugh at your expense so you need to correct the behavior.
If the sarcasm seems to be particularly directed toward you, and if it mostly consists of mimicking you in an unpleasant manner, then this is the sort of sarcasm that that person is using more maliciously.
This form of sarcasm is normally used as a way for that person to try and improve their own standing and reputation by putting you down.
They might then use sarcasm with the intention of making you look foolish and through doing this they then hope to make themselves look more intelligent and move further up the hierarchy.
Such people tend to have low self-esteem and so require the use of put downs such as sarcasm in order to try and make themselves feel wrong and look after your reputation without letting them walk on it.
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Thank you …One option is to refuse to acknowledge the sarcastic comments and instead treat them as genuine.
This way you can quickly move the subject on, show the person that you are unhappy with their comments, and at the same time often turn it around so that they end up being the ones who look stupid.
If you can make yours funnier than theirs then you will come out of the exchange on top.
If you can make your sarcasm biting enough then you may make the person think twice before using sarcasm against you in future as they choose to instead move to easier targets.
If someone cracks a joke at your personal expense, you would not like it and likely get very defensive, let it fester until you could come up with a more egregious sarcastic remark… ultimately destroying the relationship with your toxic behavior.
The simplest way to deal with a sarcastic remark in the moment is to recognize it (nod, say “Okay”) as if the words were sincere. This is a way to move the conversation along without interruption, and allows you to remain confident and collected.
You can also ignore the sarcastic remark completely, pretending not to hear it.
If the speaker’s intention was to upset you, you won’t be rewarding him with your attention. The speaker is looking for a reaction, so don’t give any return value to the words.
Conversation with the sarcastic person. They might enjoy your company, but they show it differently than you do, or you are used to.
Turn to talk to another person altogether. This will send the message that you’re unwilling to engage in additional
Scold:
You can also shoot down sarcastic comments by scolding the person using them and if you do this correctly then you can make them feel small as a result while at the same time pointing out how childish they are. If you’re going to be stupid/sarcastic then I shall not talk to you in future.
Point Out Their Motives. If someone has used sarcasm in order to make you look bad and themselves look better by extension then this is an unattractive quality and you can turn it around by pointing out their motives.
So for instance just say ‘stop trying to show off in front of your friends’ or ‘sarcasm doesn’t make you sound clever Joe’.
Similarly you can put down sarcasm by correcting their comment and pointing out how stupid it was and by explaining your original point.
So if they told you they flew then you would just say ‘I know you didn’t fly Joe, I was asking because you might have come by train’ and this way you have very quickly made their comment look churlish and petty.
Do you want to add a word or two?
If they are making you unhappy with their sarcasm but it’s unintentional, or if you have tried other strategies to get them to stop and it hasn’t worked, then you can try just telling them that you’re not happy with their attitude.
If they are a good friend and you draw attention to something that is upsetting you then they should just stop.
At the same time even if it doesn’t go that way then it should at least give them a heads up so that they know why you are acting differently toward them.
Ultimately if this person is using sarcasm to try and make you feel bad about yourself or to get ahead of you then they aren’t a good friend —
Or they have low confidence that is affecting your relationship negatively and you will be better off either cutting ties completely or just giving them some time to work through whatever it is that’s upsetting them.
Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, rooted in anger and takes no intelligence. No one likes it.
Your Comments……
Sarcasm is among the forms of humor. Stupid people can’t even detect it.
If you have a weak ego and low self-esteem, that’s your problem.
I love when people can give and receive sarcasm appropriately. Don’t confuse it with being sardonic.
Some people are sarcastic and you shouldn’t be so arrogant as to think you have the right to “correct” them. You don’t have to get sarcasm, but you do need to get over it.
People say that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, but I would suggest quotable sayings and retorts (like “sarcasm is the lowest form of wit”) are in fact lower, as they require no mental investment or ingenuity at all.
And saying “sarcastic people are so insecure” is definitely not an insecure thing to say (Sarcasm).
Sarcasm, for the most part, is just an attempt to be humorous, you do remember laughing, don’t you? (Sarcasm).
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