Challenge the fear. Since controlling behaviors are fueled by fear, you need to understand exactly what you’re afraid of and determine if it’s realistic.
What are you afraid will happen if you can’t control this situation or person?
Are you catastrophizing or expecting the worst?
What are the chances that this bad thing will really happen?
Often we exaggerate both how bad the outcome will be and how likely it is to happen. But sometimes bad things will happen and there’s little you can do about it. In this case, you need to accept what’s in your control.
Practice acceptance.
You need to accept that you can only control yourself because doing so frees you from the stress and responsibility of making sure everyone and everything goes perfectly.
This is hard to do when you want control and feel anxious.
Staying mindful and noticing what’s going on in this moment helps keep you from thinking too much about the past or future.
You can do this with a formal mindfulness practice like meditation or by simply using all of your senses to purposefully tune into the present moment. You may also want to remind yourself that controlling doesn’t work.
Some things in life are out of your control.
You may run into people you don’t get along with at a party, or have to wait forever in line for a cup of coffee.
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Thank you ….A flight might get canceled at least once in your lifetime, and you have to trust that fate will find your soulmate.
You’d rather know exactly how a situation is going to play out, rather than seeing what happens later on. The things you can’t control in life can seriously disrupt your peace of mind, though.
Learn how to let go of them as soon as possible.
“It is what it is.” This line tells the world that you’ve accepted the current situation in its entirety, and are ready to move on.
You’re leaving behind your worries and stresses for a simpler option, and not wasting your energy on something that wasn’t ever in your hands.
Let me tell you: The second you make this shift, you’ll find a whole lot of happiness and be a bit more positive, too.
The only thing you have control over is yourself. You can take charge of your decisions, attitude, and reactions — but that’s about it. Figuring out other people’s problems, or every part of a conversation will be exhausting after a while.
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One of the worst things about life is that everything changes, even the good things. On the other hand, the beautiful thing about life is that nothing stays the same.
Your most chaotic weeks and Mercury retrograde won’t be around forever. As much as you wish time was in your hands, it’s not.
The sun will set on amazing memories, and you’ll wake up to a brand new day, where anything could happen.
It sounds intimidating, and you’re probably wondering what you can do to make change slow down. Truth is, you just have to learn to go with the flow, and look at these differences as opportunities to do something new and exciting with life.
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Always be prepared to hit some traffic. Right now, you may try to find alternative routes before you leave the house, and that’s a great idea. But, sometimes the situation will be out of your control.
You’ll run into a bunch of cars and instantly go into stress mode. Truth is, waiting can be the worst, but your mindset can make it better.
Especially when you’re in a rush to get somewhere, you seemingly always hit a jam on the highway. You’re bumper-to-bumper with the cars around you, and in the moment, there’s nowhere to go.
You could complain your way through it, or learn to accept it. At this point, you’ll get there when you get there.
The future, like the past, isn’t in your control. You can try and put together a five-year plan, or figure out where you’ll be every step of the way. But, truth is, there’s bound to be at least one thing that happens that wasn’t on your itinerary.
Maybe you’ll end up falling in love, or unexpectedly finding a city that you would like to call home. You may change your career path, or decide to pursue your wildest dreams.
These things are unexpected, and honestly the best parts of life.
Learn to let go of where you think you’re supposed to be, and focus on where you are right now. After all, you can control your actions and reactions in the present moment.
Some days, you’ll wake up to a whole lot of rain or piles of snow. Your beach plans will get put aside, or you’ll have to skip out on coffee just to clean off your car. At first, you’ll be so frustrated at the world, and complaining to all of your friends.
Don’t let that feeling linger all day long, because the weather is out of your control.
You have to just make the most of a rainy day and try to find the bright side.
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