Someone who feels bitter isn’t always the easiest of people to deal with.

They can be pretty unpleasant company and being with them can make you feel negative too. If you let them, they can have all kinds of negative effects on your life.

So many things which happen to us can damage us and have us building walls to protect ourselves from more pain.

The thing about building walls is that we need to focus on the negatives to keep those walls us, otherwise we may forget to keep them up. That might lead to being vulnerable to more negatives.

Flipping the script from keeping the walls up and focusing on the negatives to healing and feeling positive about life is your choice!

We can choose to focus on the positives, to heal and to become able to move forward in life!

We each have the power to choose our own outcomes, no matter what our pain comes from.

We each have the power to heal, to redirect our lives and to achieve the outcomes we wish.

We all live in the past from time to time, especially when memories of the past are sweet and satisfying.

Sometimes, we live in the past in an effort to “re-do” what has happened to us, especially when the experience was not a good one.

When all is said and done, it’s safe to say that try as we might, we simply cannot “do-over” what has already happened.

We can choose to learn from our experiences, so that our future is free of making the same mistakes, and the choices and decisions we make are better ones.

When you put the past behind you, you accept what happened and are willing to let go of what once was.

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Thank you ….Consciously decide to put the past behind you. You may think this statement is obvious, but it isn’t.

Consciously means being aware of what has happened to you and understanding how you are affected by it.

You are not just mired in blind emotions. Making a decision means that you have weighed your choices and have elected to pursue a course of awareness and insight.

Take complete responsibility for yourself. It’s ultimately up to you to take the necessary actions to help move you forward.

Ask yourself: What or who are you holding onto, and why?

How does holding on to the past make you feel?

Does it feel better to live in the memory of the past, in the fantasy of what could have been, rather than to face the reality of a situation?

Is it easier, more soothing, to hang on to a situation the way it once was, or the way you wish it had been, instead of how it actually turned out?

Are you using this “holding on” as an excuse to remain in limbo?

In other words, is dwelling in the past taking you away from moving toward the future?

Are you trying to avoid dealing with loss and the void that loss creates?

What do you believe will happen to you if you let go of the past?

Do you want to add a word or two?

Being as honest as you can be will pay off in the long run.

The pain, hurt, anger, and disappointment will diminish once you’ve cleared the way to a better, more realistic understanding of the situation.

We all have things that haunt us from our past.

 Unfortunately, self-defeating logic may dictate that if you are the common denominator of your life, then it all has to be your fault, even though it’s not.

It is much more productive to think of yourself as a product of your entire self, not just the past.

If you only look at negative things, then those negative things can become a part of your personality, and that may keep you in an emotional bind where life becomes more difficult than it needs to be.

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Holding on to pain is normal, but it is also normal to let it go after an appropriate period of time. This can be very hard if you were abused as a child, for example.

Unfortunately, some things, if they continued for years, can become part of you, and you then look at the world as a scary place, which just isn’t much fun.

The first thing to do is to get totally honest with yourself and decide who you want to be.

Yes, what you went through changed you and made your life different from other people. Now just sit with these thoughts for several minutes.

These thoughts will reveal that you really are okay, and it was never your fault:

You are good enough and lovable enough, and you don’t have to jump through hoops to get people to like you.

Make sense?

First, we can choose to let our past make us “BITTER”,

Second, we can choose to let our past make us “BETTER”.

We must understand that who we were in the past could never be the person that we can be in the future.

If you dwell on the mistakes of your past, you will never be prepared for what the future holds.

In the company of good friends, in the feeling you get when you make someone else’s dream come true, or in the promise of hope renewed.

 It’s okay to let yourself be happy because you never know how fleeting that happiness might be.

Learn lessons from the past. 

As with anything that happens to us in life, there are always new things to learn about ourselves.

It’s ironic, but true that the events and relationships that seem to hit us the hardest are those that didn’t work out.

The emotions of anger, hurt, disappointment, and sadness are hard to deal with.

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