When someone says these words it is often very hard to assess the reality of the situation.

 Is it really true that nobody cares or is this just how we feel at this moment in time?

How do you convince someone that you care when they don’t feel worthy of love and care in the first place?

How do you say “I care” without it sounding shallow or as a clichéd response?

How do you show care to a person who refuses to receive it?

What does it mean when someone says, “Nobody cares”?

For some people, uttering the phrase “nobody cares” is a way of denouncing their own self-worth.

Substitute, “I feel unlovable” or “I don’t feel worthy of care and love” and it makes sense that one would conclude that nobody cares. It is an assumption based upon a faulty initial premise.

“Nobody cares” can also be an angry statement said to provoke a response in others. Perhaps you are feeling resentful that the people in your life are not paying attention to your arrogance. You want them to feel some of their backwardness you are sensing.

So you say something to wake them up and make them feel guilty for not responding to you in the way that you want.

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Thank you ….How to challenge this belief?

You can’t force people to care in the ways you expect by using guilt. Rousing anger or guilt in others won’t make them care for you more or get your needs met.

Being direct about what you need gives you more of a chance of actually being listened to and receiving a positive response.

This phrase might also be said as a dare as in “I dare you to say you care about me.”

It is a way to turn responsibility to another person for them to prove your worth. It is also a trap for failure because if the other person does say that they care it is easy to denounce.

The all or nothing thinking which can go along with depression can elicit “nobody cares,” as well as “this is never going to get better.” These sorts of generalized statements ensure that you will stay of your self-worth because you have made it impossible for anyone.

Do you want to add a word or two?…

Life is seldom all or nothing. The all or nothing thinking can be a way for you to maintain control. It is a way to validate the way you see the world with depression goggles on. Take a risk to realize that people do care.

They just might not always meet your expectations. Forgive others for not being perfect. Let go of your need to be right in your view of the world as an uncaring place.

“Nobody cares” can mean “I currently have no emotional support.”

Not everyone comes from a supportive family can. Also cause damage to existing relationships and friendships.

Your Comments……

How to challenge this belief?

It may very well be true that you are lacking in supports right now. Sometimes we have to create our own “family” as in developing a family of friends.

Some people reach out to their place of worship. Others find support through therapy. Just because you lack support now doesn’t mean it has to remain this way.

When someone says, “nobody cares” it can also be translated as, “I don’t feel that anyone understands me.” To feel like others “get” you is a very deep human need. You want to feel accepted despite how ugly the backward can make you feel inside.

Other people may not understand your observation. But it doesn’t mean that they have to remain that way. You can make attempts to explain how this feels and what it does to you.

Some people feel that “nobody cares” because they are frustrated with the lifestyle they have.

The truth is that their way of life is in a mess. There are no easy answers or quick fixes. The system is imperfect but this doesn’t mean that every professional that you come across is uncaring.

Saying that nobody cares comes from a place in your unworthiness where we believe such things to be true.

But it isn’t the truth. People do care. They just might not understand how to show it. Your loved ones may be unable to express care in the way you want or expect.

In some cases you may have to reach beyond your family to find friends who will act as your supportive friends.

The main person you need to care about you is you. As much as others care, they cannot live your life for you. They cannot be responsible for your happiness or well-being.

When you care about yourself then you will find that others have an easier time to show their love and care for you.

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