First, make sure there’s not a language issue.

In meetings, people may say “yes” to something without really know what they are saying “yes” to.

I was guilty of this when I began conducting business in a second language that I was learning. I honestly believed that I understood what we were agreeing to and then later on learned that I was mistaken.

One way to double check is instead of asking “OK?” at the end of a meeting, ask the team members to repeat back to you what they understand the next steps to be.

This will take some extra time but any gaps or misunderstandings will become obvious and you will have the opportunity to circle back and re-address those areas specifically.

Let me tell you something about persistence:

It’s often confused with being CLINGY.

And girls will never respect or become attracted to clingy guys.

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Thank you ….Persistence in itself is admirable because it shows that you’re interested in more than a simple fling, and won’t “hit and run”, so to speak. Some girls will like this and think that you’re great.

Proper persistence is when a guy goes on with his life, doing whatever he does, occasionally reaching out to the girl to see if she’s available.

If she’s not, he doesn’t get phased and moves on, not worrying about a thing, and then occasionally tries his luck again when he remembers her.

It’s never to be confused with asking the girl out for the 5th time that week, after she continuously told you NO.

Persistence is great – clinginess is awful. Make sure you’re not on the wrong side here, because the moment people see that you’re clingy – they’ll never respect you.

“No” does not always mean no. Sometimes, people will tell you “no” even though you deserve a “yes.”

It could be a client refusing to pay for your services, a boss refusing to give you the promotion he promised, or even a customer refusing to buy your product.

Persist, and you will succeed.

Do you want to add a word or two?…

To say yes is to agree. To say no is to disagree. And all the little phrases that we use in between, like “I don’t want to” or “not right now” or “of course” or “all right” all mean the same thing.

So why then, is it so hard to understand the meaning of yes and no when it comes to consent?

Consent has always meant and will always mean the same thing: permission, approval, agreement.

You’ll be surprised (or maybe not) at how many times rapists have argued that “they were unsure” of what the victim meant when they said “I don’t want to” or “not right now.” There is absolutely no way either of those phrases can be translated to “yes.”

But at some point society has made it okay for people to believe that “I don’t want to” or “not right now” isn’t enough of a reason.

It is. It is more than enough of a reason.

Simply having the gut feeling that tells you no is enough to justify every choice you will ever make for the rest of your life

In many cultures, there is a strict respect for hierarchy so you should expect people to say “yes” to anything the leader says, even if that know that it’s impossible or think that it’s a bad idea.

In other cultures, debate and conflict can be so uncomfortable that disagreeing even slightly with a colleague or a boss can create anxiety.

Look for other clues —especially non-verbal ones like a furrowed brow or a heavy sigh or eyes rolling — that will signal that not everyone is on board. And then talk with people after the meeting individually to make sure you didn’t miss anything.

Your Comments……

Again, in many cultures, it is terribly uncomfortable to tell someone (especially a higher-ranking person or a foreign person) that something cannot be done.

Unless you want to believe that everything is ok and going as planned when actually it’s coming apart at the seams, maybe you should come up with a code word that employees can use to clue you in.

One colleague said that while in India, she agreed with her team that they could say, “Yes, and that will be difficult to achieve” as a way that was comfortable for them to let her know that something was definitely not going to happen on the timeline that was being promised.

You may wonder why it’s important to adapt and adjust around all of these cultural norms, and you would be right. You only need to worry about it if you actually want your business to progress and if you actually want to have an understanding of what is going on in your company!

Do women like persistence in a man?

What kind of persistence?

Has she already explicitly told you that she dislikes your company, or would like to be left alone?

If she has, then she will not like your persistence. Even if it comes from a good place, no means no.

For born people-pleasers, accommodating others feels like second nature, which is why you ask yourself the following question before you decide to commit.

Will I become resentful or throw it back in this person’s face how I did this request for them?

If the answer is yes, then you can easily see why you’re better off saying no. In fact, you could look at saying “no” as a way to strengthen and protect your relationship.

You draw the line the moment she says, directly or indirectly, “no.”

Persistence after a no is called “stalking.”

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