Going through life is easier when you trust that most people’s motives are good.
Whether or not that’s true, it’s unarguable that some people have paid a huge price for being too trusting.
Don’t be blinded by looks, flirtation , nor sex.
Some people who have the gift of looks, charisma , or sex appeal, use it to unfair advantage. In fact, such people could be much more trouble than they’re worth, whether in business or personal relationships, but they wield their looks, smiles, or sexuality to blind the recipient, even at outsized cost.
To take an extreme example, spies have gotten people to sacrifice a nation’s security merely by “bestowing” sex on someone. There are no guarantees, but your best shot may be to view the whole person and their overall behavior.
Some people are kind mainly because they want something.
Yes, some people are nice for its own sake or because they genuinely like you and want to do nice things for you. But other people use kindness as a weapon: to disarm and/or create obligation so that later, they can extract selfish benefits well beyond the kindness they bestowed.
So when someone “caringly” asks how you are or gives you a little gift, don’t jump to that being a ploy, but keep your eyes open:
Does the person overall seem kind or at least balanced, or does he or she seem to, out of character, unexpectedly do something nice, yet otherwise seem to focus on taking care of Number One?
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Thank you ….Be wary of praise from people who you pay, like counselors, teachers, coaches, etc.
Whether true or not, saying nice things about you or your work increases their chances of keeping your money coming, getting better user reviews, and getting your praise, at far less risk to them than if they were critical of you.
Sure, some people get off on being unduly critical, but all things equal, you might give greater trust to someone who bestows legitimate-seeming criticism and even pessimism , even though that doesn’t feel as good as praise does.
Beware of a “generous” offer.
Yes, sometimes your negotiating opponent, professional or personal, makes a generous offer because he or she doesn’t like negotiation or simply because he or she likes you.
But other times, what seems a generous offer hides that a better offer could have been had, that the product or service is worse than you think, or that the person will be generous this time but will want a bigger advantage soon regarding something else.
For example, your partner knows that you love to travel but s/he doesn’t. S/he cheerily suggests you go on a trip together. Beware that s/he may be after far bigger game.
For example, s/he wants to marry you but you’re unsure.
So s/he softens you up with the trip and will make “the ask” during the trip at the moment when you’re feeling especially appreciative about the trip, perhaps at that perfect, romantic dinner, after a couple of glasses of wine.
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And voila, the marriage train has left the station: S/he tells everyone after which it’s really hard to put on the brakes. Or was that some romantic comedy?
I find that sorry has an arbitrary meaning anymore. People say it so often in life that when you mean it, it’s hard to differentiate when it’s real.
If you bump into someone, you arbitrarily say, I’m sorry or drop a coin as your handing back change, “I’m sorry” but when it counts you say it and how is one to differentiate what’s true and what’s arbitrary?
No one means to do what they do and if they do, why you should be “sorry” especially if there’s intent.
So don’t be “sorry”. Live with intent, check to see that they’re ok when you bump into them, pick up the coin and say “there you go”! Stop being overly polite.
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The 3 C’s in life: Choice, Chance, and Change.
You must make the choice, to take the Chance, if you want anything in life to Change. Push yourself to pursue a life worth living .Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.
Never regret a day in your life.
Good days give you happiness & bad day give you experience.
Time decides who you meet in life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behavior decides who stays in your life.
Love is supposed to be the ultimate conqueror of all the bad in the world. Unfortunately, sometimes it uses its power to bring the strongest person to their knees.
While love is responsible for some of the most blissful moments in our life, it can turn these moments dark in a matter of seconds. So why does love hurt so much?
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