Can you find romantic love in an arranged marriage?
Well, this question might haunt you, but yes, love is possible in an arranged marriage.
Too many people believe in fairy tales instead of reality. Life has storms. Too many people don’t know how to wear LIFE vests, and hold on steadfast to the boat during a storm. They fall overboard at the first large wave.
Marriage involves two people, and the relationship can thrive only if these two are happy with each other.
But then, if love is possible in an arranged marriage, then why does community agree with the concept of traditional arranged marriages?
A marriage doesn’t mean marrying each other. You marry each other’s family and fulfill your duties towards them.
At times, parents involved in the marriage have expectations higher than they can fulfill. Their expectations can cause stress between married couples, and hence, the majority of youth today want to escape this type of marriage.
But every concept comes with its set of advantages and disadvantages. While the children run away from this concept, the parents prefer culturally arranged marriages.
Marriage is a big mistake for those people who don’t know how to live like as husband and wife after married.
Because marriage is a family, social, cultural, religious and financial agreement between husband and wife and 4 the one who knows how to maintain this relationship, marriage is beautiful than heaven.
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Thank you …For those whom marriage is only a means of physical satisfaction for each other, in which there no aim of procreation, for them marriage is not only a mistake but is like heaven.
Marriage can turn out to prove a big mistake under 2 circumstances- one, married to the wrong partner, and two, the person is not built for a marriage or partnership.
Finding the right partner is to a large extent a matter of luck. When you are attracted to someone, you tend to ignore their flaws and focus on their positive qualities only.
Most people are good, however, some personalities just don’t go with each other. Marriage between such incompatible people is usually not peaceful.Sometimes one partner tries to adjust for the other, when personalities are highly opposite, however, it ends up in frustration and the marriage turns sour. In this case, I am not talking about anyone being ‘good’ or ‘bad’ by nature.
Another circumstance may be that the partner may be a narcissist or an abusive partner. Abuse may not always be physical, and this is not a gender-specific thing. In the initial stages of any relationship, people tend to be nice.
You want to impress your partner, so you try to do things you think your partner would appreciate, even if it is a pretense.
Some people are simply not built for marriage. They do not want to marry, they do not want to share anything with their partner. Some of them are so highly dependent on their parents that their parents end up controlling the lives of their partners as well.
I have heard cases where people have shared intimate details of their relationship with their partner with their parents. It’s absurd but it happens. It becomes difficult for partners to continue such marriages. Sometimes people don’t want to get married but marry due to pressure. Such marriages are mistakes.
Do you want to add a word or two…
A marriage is a partnership. Both partners have to put effort to make it work. If for some reason you think you will not be able to, or don’t want to put in the effort then not getting married, at least not immediately, would be a better idea.
Maybe they just aren’t the right people for each other… when you enter married life, you should know what will happen because you will build your own family.
Fights and other things are inevitable in married couples, so maybe something like that happens to test how much you love each other. There are many trials, but if you are willing to build a family, you can overcome all of them… that’s why there are give and take words.
It is up to the couple how they handle each other’s behavior. So before getting married, the one you choose to be your spouse should be the one who will be with you until old age.
Relationships are complicated and “natural libido” often takes over and alters the selection process in choosing a partner. Therefore sex plays a dominant part in selecting a partner to live with for a lifetime.
This troublesome factor is even more common with partners decide to marry too soon. And even more likely to happen with traditional family controlled parental decisions on who their offspring should marry.
Your Comments……
I have said before in answering such questions it is best to live together for some time before marrying, this at least helps reduce the likelihood of a couple going separate ways early in the relationship.
We all change as we grow older and there will always be break-ups even when the partnership seemed just perfect, however, the percentage of early break-ups should reduce. I suggest a minimum time together of 2 years before marrying.
I see marriage as a lifelong bond with your partner which completely changes your life. I feel if you are going to spend your entire life with a person, it is very important to know the person very well.
Only love cannot result in a beautiful marriage. Compatibility, trust, adjustment, and sacrifices are also extremely essential to build a strong connection.
Although love marriage and arranged marriage are both ways to build a bond forever, which of the two is the more accurate way?
Let us see the differences in detail.
Basis of comparison
Love marriage
Arranged marriage
Bond
In love marriages, the couple has a strong emotional bond with each other already.
In arranged marriages, usually, the prospects are strangers to each other who try to make a bond to get married.
Role of elders
In this case, the partners have fallen in love and decided to get married, the elders just have to accept their decision.
On the other hand, the elders of the family members look for a prospective bride or groom and initiate the proceedings to bring the two in contact.
Society
In many orthodox societies, people see love marriage as a symbol of disrespect towards families.
This is still considered an ideal way to find a potential partner as this involves the approval of the elders.
Compatibility
Since the couple has stayed together for a long time, they are much more compatible and have full knowledge of their partner’s habits and interests before the wedding.
The couple is barely compatible because they do not have much time to know their partner before the wedding.
Love Marriage vs Arrange Marriage
Looking at the differences, I would like to say that love marriages are way more beneficial for the couple because that involves their love and interests, whereas in an arranged marriage it kind of seems to be an arranged set up for two people to marry.
But obviously, it depends on an individual’s way of thinking, and both ways ultimately lead us to find a perfect life partner.
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