When you’re in the beginning stages of a brand new relationship, it’s easy to get swept up in how amazing everything feels — after all, it’s not called the ‘honeymoon phase’ for nothing.

But if your goal is long-term love, it’s important to be able to view your new partner without rose-colored glasses, and be aware of the early signs the relationship won’t last long term.

Yes, relationships tend to get stronger and deeper over time, and a slightly rocky beginning doesn’t necessarily spell doom for the relationship. That being said, it’s unwise to sweep red flags under the rug, because often, the beginning of a relationship reveals a lot about how things will play out in the long run.

If you want to know how a story ends, look at how it begins

What is most important in the early parts of the relationship is to actually be realistic about what one is experiencing.

Paying attention to what is going wonderfully, and what is actually not working… When being aware of what is going on in a relationship, even of something painful, there is way more of a chance to actually address and possibly heal the issue and create a long-term relationship.

It might feel like you’re being overly cynical if you’re actively looking out for red flags in a new relationship, but you’re actually much better off if you notice something that has you questioning the future of your relationship early on: that way, you’ll have a chance to address it before any resentment builds or you waste more of your precious time.

In the honeymoon phase, it’s totally normal to get swept up in a passionate whirlwind of lust, and feel like you can’t get enough of your new partner. But if you feel like your relationship is based solely on this intense, passionate, got to-have-them feeling, and there’s not a lot else you have in common, that’s a sign that things won’t last when the sexy vibes fizzle out.

The major indicator that a relationship may not last is when there is only passionate love. If the emotional high from the passion is the only thing holding you and your partner together, the relationship is at risk.

If you ‘fell head over heels in love’ you can just as easily fall out of love… Holding on to your partner as the passionate love diminishes, when there is no other glue in the relationship, doesn’t work of course, because the tighter you hold, the more slippery your partner becomes.

If you have common interests and empathic communication that is the glue that can hold a relationship together even after the passion wanes.

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Thank you ….For a relationship to last long-term, it’s so important to feel like you can always be your genuine, authentic self around your partner  . If you just started dating, it might take a bit for you to open up, and that’s OK — but if you find yourself walking on eggshells lest you slip up and reveal part of yourself you don’t want to share with your partner, that’s unsustainable in the long run.

If you can’t be your full self in the beginning of a relationship, it can be a sign that you feel like there is a part of you that isn’t appropriate for the relationship.

When we leave out any authentic part of our self — whether it be an angry part, depressed part, or kinky part — then we are setting up the relationship to stay on the surface, which will not support long-term potential.

Every couple has different standards for how much or little they communicate with each other, but in the beginning of a relationship, it doesn’t bode well for the future if you feel like your partner doesn’t prioritize you, and communicates less frequently than you’d like.

Do you want to add a word or two?….

While almost everyone can easily say that they are busy, when you find that someone isn’t being responsive early on in the relationship, it might be a sign that they don’t prioritize you, or relationships in general.

There are no hard rules on how ‘responsive’ someone needs to be, and it’s equally important to be patient. However, remember, don’t be overly patient with someone who will end up wasting your time.

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The company we keep says a lot about who we are, and if you realize early on that you can’t stand your partner’s friends, that could indicate that you’re not really compatible long-term.

Not liking your partner’s friends] is a huge indicator that the relationship might be headed for troubled waters. The bottom line is that we chose our friends, and often times, we chose people that are similar to us in some way.

If you find that you don’t like their friends, be aware that your newest love might have some qualities in some of those friendships you don’t like.

In any long-term relationship, both partners need to be independent to some degree, and have their own unique interests and hobbies that are separate from their partner.

If you notice that your new partner immediately tries to adopt all the same interests as you that could be a red flag that they’ll be too dependent on you for their happiness in the future.

We find partners that are similar to us, and also, we look for those who are different from us. Be on the lookout that when your beau suddenly transforms into all your likes and dislikes, this might be a red flag.

The foundation for any healthy long-term relationship is mutual respect, which means that both partner’s opinions are equally valued in any given situation. If you get the sense (whether subtle or not) that your partner values their own opinion above yours, that’s a sign they won’t make a long term partner.

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